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Since I was a little girl, I’ve been told I was bossy. By teachers. By family members. By fellow kids. And you know what: I knew it was a negative thing. It wasn’t a mystery. People don’t say: “you’re bossy” with a smile on their face. They say it with disdain. They say it as a criticism. They say it because you aren’t behaving the way they expect or want you to behave.
For a long time, I shirked from the word. In fact, all those words above… those are all words that have been said about me in performance reviews at various jobs. And you know, I used to feel really badly about that. The thing is: perception is not reality. We all come to our work and our lives with a point of view and approach that is all our own. Some is nature. Some is nurture. But no matter how much you nurture me, I’m never going to be a quiet person. I’m never going to be a sensitive person. And that’s not a bad thing! On the flip, being quiet and sensitive isn’t either. It’s just part of what gives us the skills to do what we are best doing in the world. It is what equips us to contribute to society.
Which is why I recently started to embrace the word, bossy. Ask Webster’s what a boss is and the meaning is clear:
boss – bôs,bäs
Noun: person in charge of a worker or organization. a person in control of a group or an organization.
Adjective: excellent; outstanding.
Bossy has a bad wrap. And you know what? I am those things. When Sheryl Sandberg broke the world with the introduction of Lean In and the idea of #BanBossy - suddenly - we shed light and opened a whole new conversation in our culture on the negative nature of the word. On a basic factual level, Sandberg is right in her observation: “We call our little girls bossy. Go to a playground; little girls get called bossy all the time - a word that’s almost never used for boys - and that leads directly to the problems women face in the workforce.”
Her notion is that if we ban the word, we will start to recognize the leadership qualities in little girls earlier on. And I hope she’s right. However, I’m always in favor of a little rethinking and redefinition. I think instead of banning the word, perhaps we should own it. Maybe we need to #EmbraceBossy
Just look at all these amazing women who have been told they were bossy:
“Am I bossy? Absolutely. I don’t like to lose, and if I’m told ‘no,’ then I find another way to get my 'yes.’“ - Naomi Campbell
“I’m not bossy. I’m the boss.” - Beyonce
“Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” - Tina Fey
“I’ll be bossy and damn proud! Banning words, please. Try banning the system that produces polices that promote inequity.” - Rosa Clemente
“I was an optimistic person; really bossy, gregarious and outspoken. ” - Mamie Gummer
“I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It means somebody’s passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn’t mind leading.” - Amy Poehler
And that’s a short list of those that were brave enough to talk about it. There are many, many more, I’m sure who have risen to power in politics and business and entertainment who have been called bossy behind their backs and to their faces. It’s just that simple.
I’m ready to #EmbraceBossy. How about you?
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